How To Get The Life You Always Wanted–Happy Father’s Day for Women

When I was a little girl, there was a show on TV called Queen For The Day. I don’t remember much about it, but I remember liking the idea that perhaps I too could feel like royalty, even if only for twenty-four hours.

Throughout my Trusting Spirit Now writings and teachings, one of the concepts I continue to espouse is my deep belief about our royal birthright. Maybe I fantasized about the idea while a child watching TV, nevertheless as I have grown to know God and to comprehend my relationship with Him, I know without a doubt that I am His child and that I am deeply and unconditionally beloved of Him!

No matter how any of our stations in life are physically manifesting at this time, we all have royal blood running in our veins, and to accept this truth can make quite a difference in our state of happiness.

While to me this truth is as sure as the rising sun and will always remain so, you wouldn’t know it by looking around in the world today!

Just this week, I helped a friend survive the trials of a pending divorce in which the husband refuses to work to support the family. He mocks God and the need to minister with love to his family, leaving my friend to live in fear and to struggle for her self-worth, and with no other choice but to move on and start life over without him.

Another friend’s husband was thrown in jail for domestic violence, and hopefully will be under the care of the courts while she and her children are protected from this man’s dark choices until he decides to remember who he is and to live by faith.

Men, it’s Father’s Day today, and I hope most of you are having a sweet day of being shown the gratitude you deserve for all your hard work and loving sacrifice on behalf of your wives and children. A loving father is every child’s hero, as in this quote from Thomas Wolfe:

Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later… that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and catastrophic possibilities of life.

God bless such a man who represents God in making us feel safe as we experience life!

I also love the concept of walking your talk and leading by example as expressed by Clarence Kelland:

He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.

And this from Harmon Killebrew: My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys.”

Whether they asked for the job or not, men represent the energy of God in our life as they provide for our physical and many other needs. Every woman’s dream is to have such a man who makes her feel safe and perfectly beloved. For this man, she gives all her heart and soul—all her life. In her romantic heart she might feel like this quote from Dinah Craik:

Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.

How can women best help their men become such heroes in the lives of their families? How can a woman get the life she always wanted? They must build together on a strong foundation of principles, as suggested in this statement from The Proclamation on the Family:

“Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.

Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.”

If you are like most women, you absolutely want such a life, such a man, such a father for your children! You want it with all your heart, but unfortunately, many have only been disappointed and maybe given up trying. Others tend to find manipulative ways to be sure they let their man know his lack!

Recently, along with some other ladies who called for A Day of Healing for the Hearts of Men, I received some spiritual guidance to show me a better way to help men find their way into such a path of light. As with all things, trusting spirit works faster and more directly than physical manipulations. I learned that coming from a place of spiritual enlightenment and creation, you can have all the love and support from the man in your life that you ever desired! It is through loving intention, compassion, and oneness with God and angels yourself first that you help your soul mate to be an example of the light of Christ in your home!

I invite each woman reading this article to experiment with me. Listen to the following guided meditation and allow yourself to do as it directs. You will discover what is your part in helping your man to live in the light. You will discover how easily men respond to the light, and how obedient they are to living in the light. That is, of course, when they make the choice for themselves to do so, and when they know someone believes in them!

Using this process of spiritual creation, you can support men to know their worth in the eyes of God, as His sons—royalty—and they may then choose to begin living in such an enlightened state of awareness.

And once they know their royal birthright, you will be their queen–not just for a day, but forever!

(This was created by and for women and it may be used for their husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, and friends, but men may do it for themselves as well–simply put yourself in the visualization, and do the exercises about your own feelings of self.)

Here is the experiment:

1. I invite you to take a few minutes, right now, to write your feelings about your man—your fears, frustrations, hopes, and dreams. Write what is working for you, and what is not. Write how each of these things makes you feel.

2. Find some solitude very soon for 35 minutes of your time to enjoy the following recording, which I call Meditation for the Healing of Men. Enter this space with a clear intention. What is it you want to change for the better for him? Write this down and keep it as a prayer in your heart.

3. Do this process when you are wide awake and sitting erect, so that you can stay alert to notice and experience for yourself what happens. Allow your mind to relax and imagine the visions are really happening. They are.

4. After experiencing this meditation, know that a spiritual creation has occurred. You will have some new guidance while in this vision. Make a commitment to follow it, observing the positive changes in your man’s life, and consequently, yours. This process must be repeated over and over as often as possible in order to reprogram your own brain, which then changes how you project your beliefs on others and assists them in acting accordingly.

5. Write your experience, including what changes you observe in both him and you. Write as detailed as possible. This will possibly evolve over a period of several months time.

6. Send your before and after story to me via email: jrhansen6@msn.com. With your permission, I would like to use your stories (anonymously) to inspire others to use spiritual creation in meditation as a means to make positive changes in their relationships as well.

This meditation was created in nature, so please forgive the lack of sound control! You will hear the running creek nearby, as well as birds chirping and wind blowing. The winds seemed to come almost in synchronicity to what I was saying about spirit–I liked the confirmation.

As with all meditations, I did this from a clear intention and from spirit. Nothing was orchestrated or pre-planned. The ladies who joined me had deep desires to assist the men in their lives to live more fully in the light, and to know themselves as literal sons of God. Together we called forth this experience, and the following meditation was the result of our desires and prayers.

Meditation For The Healing Of Men, Beginning With Women

Painting of Christ: Precious In His Sight, by Greg Olson